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Dormant jealousy is jealousy you did not know you had until you see somebody else have something you want.
The subtle killer, it does not operate alone—it recruits others!
It recruits others to side with it to help discredit a person; and to help make others start to be suspicious, and doubtful about that person.
One thing you will notice, it never operates alone because it understands the power of oneness, unity, and working together.
It uses defamation when it attacks its victim. We see it all the time on social media, just one word uttered from this killer can cause someone's reputation to be damaged.
It is clever in how it lures you into believing what it is saying, causing you to trust its lies. It is incredibly good at what is does and why it is called the subtle killer.
It is all about making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve something—bringing you dishonor, and this skillful killer is called jealousy.
Jealous people will get together and put aside the hate they have for each other to accomplish a bigger goal, hindering you or hindering someone; and if the nature or spirit of jealousy is not addressed, vanquished, defeated, or removed completely and quickly, it will attract the spirit of envy.
Now here is where it becomes dangerous. With envy you desire to cause pain and malice towards a person, you want to stop them from accomplishing their goals, and you want to overshadow them.
Jealousy is, "why not me", while envy is, "I do not want it to be you."
There was a woman who was falsely accused by someone who was jealous of her. The person who was jealous got others to think it was possible the woman did what she told them by raising suspicion. It lasted for months before the moment the woman was confronted by the spokesperson from the group of accusers.
When asked or should I say, when accused by the one who became the spokesperson, they went as far as to say they saw the woman do what she was being accused of. Here we see how another spirit or nature has now joined the lineup, the spirit of lying.
The spokesperson told the lady she saw for herself what the lady did, but in the end, it was discovered what the woman was accused of was a lie because the accuser was jealous of the woman.
The not so obvious thing about accusing, is you are acting just like Satan. The Scriptures says,
“And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night” —Revelation 12:10
Unchecked jealousy grows into envy which can turn deadly. When someone is jealous of you and does not address this internal problem, you become a target. They start to attack you by gossiping and lying in hopes of ruining your reputation and more. They have now become a murderer with their mouth by assassinating your character.
The main goal of Satan in our lives is to kill, steal, and destroy us and he does this by using other people against us or using us as a pawn against someone else (John 10:10).
Here is an example,
When we look at what happened with David and Saul, the jealousy Saul had for David cause him to try to kill David on several occasions. Because of how skillful David was, Saul wanted him to be a part of his circle; however, because of all the attention and praise David was getting, Saul got jealous. The jealousy was so strong, Saul made several attempts to try to kill David (1 Samuel 16-31). Saul’s undealt with jealousy turn him into an attempted murderer.
Jealousy is a crab in the bucket mentality, when other people see you advancing in life—they get jealous.
Just like crabs, if everyone is in one place or level in life [bucket], and someone out the group wants to climb out of the bucket [succeed], the other crabs [people], pull it back into the bucket. This is why it is important to surround yourself around the right people. An excerpt from Its OK to Be Single: Chapter 4—Relationship Ready
The Scriptures asked, "who can stand before jealousy," so if it is in you then you are going to have to deal with the root cause of jealousy to get rid of it because eventually you will succumb to it.
One root of jealousy is insecurity. Insecurity is lack of confidence, self-doubt and/or fear. This can come from childhood, trauma, experiences, failure, or rejection.
Insecurity causes damage to your confidence and creates separation with those that love you. If you are insecure in your relationship, you can ruin someone's destiny.
There was an upstanding woman name Tammy. She did not use profane words and had high standards for the men in her life. However, after meeting her husband, I noticed how her behavior changed.
She started to curse and do things that were against her moral compass. What I noticed was these behaviors were usual for her husband but unusual for her. I understand we are responsible and in control of our own actions; however, I also understand the power of influence and connection.
His connection in her life swayed her into being like him and it kept her stagnant in life.
Before meeting him, she was ambitious and driven, and instead of helping her reach her goals, he pulled her down as she was climbing the ladder of success and reaching higher levels in life.
His jealousy, insecurity, and selfishness stopped her from pursuing higher learning and kept her in a job that offered no growth.
Prior to meeting him, she would pursue men that were go getters who would encourage, support, and inspire her to fulfill her purpose. Unfortunately, in her current relationship, all it brought was pain, betrayal, mistrust, abuse, and regret.
Since he did not deal with his insecurities, he impeded his wife's purpose instead of propelling it.
You can also be so lost in your insecurities that you will not realize how wonderful and magnificent you are. But when you find your identity, you will love yourself and all that you are.
Part of insecurity is not loving yourself fully. We should love all that we are, not pick and choice parts of us. Loving yourself and being original will help you overcome insecurity.
"For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice" —James 3:13
The problem with being jealous is, somebody is always going to be better than you at something.
Competition is one of the worst things that can happen. It is contrary to what God wants which is unity, and if we are busy competing with each other, we have now become odds with each other.
Without togetherness there is no power. Without appreciating each other's strengths and knowing how to use them in a way that is effective, then we are ineffective. We will become people who are just going in circles.
Angelic beings have specific tasks. God made angels to have such a unique task that no other angel is created to do it, just that one. They are not jealous of each other because they understand each of them is designed to achieve a specific goal that compliments the other angels.
Angels are not trying to overthrow or pull down the other. They understand the importance of each of them working together by doing what they were created to do.
They are focused on their task; besides, how can you focus when you are jealous?
Instead of minding someone else's business, you should be minding your own. And since you are not minding your own business, your business is being neglected.
Jealousy will cause you to be used by the enemy and instead of supporting a good thing, you stir up problems hurting the very thing that you are supposed to be enhancing and benefitting from.
Organizations desire to have someone be a part of their company so it can excel. But some people are fine with the organization doing well, yet they are jealous of the person who is responsible for it is being praised.
We must propel and move forward and take others with us, but this can only be accomplished if we overcome the spirit or nature of jealousy.
I too had to face this spirit or character in different areas of my life. I was both a contributor and a recipient. It brought limitation to my life and made what could have been easy, hard.
There are signs.
Some signs of jealousy are being upset about how people see somebody else. If you are mad because people like someone more than you, or you get upset that someone else is getting attention, if you always lose friends, or you are demanding, these are signs of jealousy.
If you dedicate yourself to someone else's oppression to feel secure within, then you have jealousy.
Jealousy can be dormant. Dormant jealousy is jealousy you did not know you had until you see somebody else have something you want, and these wants can be achievements, money, favor, beauty, fame, access, talents, skills, abilities, intelligence, or relationships.
Therefore, it is important you deal with uncertainties or anxieties about yourself, and your lack of confidence to be free from jealousy.
Jealousy hijacks your mind, ruins relationships, and can cause murder. It damages relationships and creates distrust. It is a negative feeling that comes from the root of insecurity. And it can cause anxiety.
God wants to establish internal foundations for external success; so, use the Scriptures to help you look for areas of jealousies in your life.
Find the insecurities and deal with them immediately, and do not ignore them because it is a subtle killer!
The amazing thing about God is, He is not jealous of you, but for you.
"He is jealous for his bride [you]. He is jealous with passion and desire for her to have nothing but the best and from the best. He knows that what He has is more than any other person can provide. He does not want anyone to violate, hurt, or give [you] less than what [you] deserve. And He is faithful and committed to [you] only." An excerpt from My Love Is Unconditional.
Do you want to be free of jealousy and allow God’s unconditional love to change you for the better? All you must do is make the choice of salvation and accept Jesus into your life by confessing that Jesus Christ is Lord and believe in your heart that He came from Heaven to die for your sins—Romans 10:9.
When you accept Jesus as Lord and Savior, God will heal and free you, and show you how to be victorious in every area of our life.
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