Speaking with Wisdom—How to Always Say the Right Things
- Heather Edmund
- Dec 7, 2022
- 7 min read
Updated: Mar 13
Your conversations with people should always be meaningful.
From Series: Life Lessons Learned from the Bible—Colossians 4: 6
How to say the right things
When you spend time with God you come away with many things and one of those is having the wisdom to say the right things.
The Lord gives favor to those who have a relationship with him. This favor or grace will allow you to speak in a way that is pleasing, attractive, and smart— ensuring that your words will always be beneficial.
There is a Scripture that tells us whether we are eating, drinking, or whatever we are doing, do it to the honor of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). We should do everything in honor and reverence to the Lord including our conversation with each other.
Our words and conversations should reflect the character of God within us. If someone is surprised to learn that you are a Christian, it should be a moment of reflection—are your actions and words bearing the fruit of your faith? As believers, our lives should serve as a testimony, inspiring others to seek a relationship with God through the way we speak, act, and live.
Our very life should be giving people Jesus
Everything he represents should reflect through us. It should be evident in our speech and visible in our actions. The absence of this demonstration in your life indicates a lack of time devoted to God. Rather, you should be hearing, "I knew there was something different about you."
We must represent the Kingdom of Heaven in a way that draws others to it, just as Jesus did. His life, death, and resurrection were all for the purpose of reconnecting us with the Father. The only way to fulfill this mission is through Christ, with Christ, and by Christ. Our lives should reflect His love and truth, making others desire the relationship with God that we have.
Our conversations should be encouraging, helpful, and inspiring
Many individuals lack self-assurance in themselves or in God, yet your words inspired by God can transform that individual's entire life.
You may not know everything about a person, but God does. He sees their heart, understands their thoughts, and knows their past, present, and future. As our Creator, He knows exactly how each of us is wired. That’s why our words should be used to encourage, uplift, inspire, and show love.
Our conversations should come with great value
While humor has its place in lightening the mood, our conversations should ultimately inspire and uplift others, helping them reach their fullest potential. When we stay connected to God, we naturally begin to adopt His way of thinking, aligning our thoughts and actions with His.
Just as spending time with someone often leads to picking up their habits unconsciously, our character is shaped by the company we keep. As the saying goes, "You are the company you keep," meaning we are often judged by the people we surround ourselves with.
To cultivate strong character, it’s essential to spend time with those who exemplify the values we strive to uphold.
With God's guidance, you will avoid saying inappropriate or offensive words. This is possible because God can remove and cleanse us of things that do not belong.
One of the most effective ways to grow spiritually is by immersing yourself in the Bible—God’s Word in written form. It is the divine nourishment that came from heaven, and when you feed on it, true transformation takes place.
God’s Word is alive and powerful. It’s not just a historical account but a timeless truth that remains relevant today.
As you read, you are being nourished. The more you feed on His Word, the more you grow, and the wiser your decisions become.
"All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work." (2 Timothy 3:16-17).
By studying and understanding the Bible, you equip yourself with wisdom, ensuring that you are not easily misled but can discern truth and speak with confidence.
We are the salt of the world
It is important to speak wisely and thoughtfully, much like how salt should be used—with purpose and balance. In ancient Hebrew culture, salt symbolized friendship and loyalty, signifying its value beyond mere flavor. Similarly, in Arabic culture, salt and treaty share the same meaning. Even if an Arab's enemy shares salt with him, the Arab is obligated to protect the guest. Across various societies, salt carries deep cultural significance, reminding us that our words, like salt, should preserve, uplift, and build meaningful connections.
Salt is recognized for its antiseptic qualities in the medical field. In Ezekiel 16:4, it was customary for newborns to be washed and massaged with salt.
When people are referred to as the salt of the earth, it means they are highly esteemed (Matthew 5:13-16). The term "salt" was historically associated with excellence due to its significant value. In essence, being the salt of the earth denotes being a commendable and remarkable individual, as well as someone with influence.
It takes time
When you adapt the attributes of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control, your words will consistently reflect wisdom and grace, making you a person of positive influence.
These qualities cultivate maturity and enable you to impact others in meaningful ways. However, they don’t develop automatically—you must actively nurture them. Growth comes through intentional practice, consistent application, and a commitment to living them out daily.
Like any other pursuit, breaking a habit and establishing a new one takes time. Yet, as your relationship with God strengthens, you will slowly begin to embody His traits.
Just as a baby does not come into the world knowing everything, most skills must be acquired and nurtured. The same applies to developing character; it needs to be observed, practiced, and learned.
Engaging in meaningful, uplifting, and thought-provoking conversations can inspire others to see their potential and take action. Like a domino effect, this encouragement can lead them to become catalysts for change. That’s why it’s important for our words to be intentional, impactful, and reflective of the qualities of God within us.
Proverbs 10:32 says, "The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked, what is perverse." The Bible has given us sufficient teaching about gracious speaking that we know what words please Him and bless others.
Wisdom, self-awareness, and intentionality
Always saying the right things comes down to wisdom, self-awareness, and intentionality. Therefore,
Speak with Love and Kindness
Your words should uplift, encourage, and reflect the love of God.
Ephesians 4:29 – “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.”
Seek Wisdom from God
Pray for wisdom and guidance before difficult conversations.
James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”
Stay Rooted in the Word
The Bible is the ultimate guide for speaking truthfully and effectively.
2 Timothy 3:16 – “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness.”
Be Slow to Speak & Quick to Listen
Avoid rushing into conversations. Listen with the intent to understand, not just to respond.
James 1:19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”
Be Honest, But Gentle
Truth should never be harsh or condemning but spoken in love.
Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Practice Self-Control
Train yourself to resist speaking out of anger, frustration, or impulse.
Proverbs 13:3 – “Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.”
Encourage & Inspire Others
Your words should leave people feeling hopeful and valued.
Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
By applying these principles and allowing God to guide your words, you can consistently say the right things in every situation.
From Series: Life Lessons Learned from the Bible—Colossians 4: 6
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