Stop Accusing
Updated: Oct 6
Instead of helping her they hurt her, and instead of finding out the truth they accused her!
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There was a young lady who was having a tough time dealing with her family's structure falling apart.
She never told anyone about it. There would be moments when she would breakdown due to the pressure of what she was going through but instead of her team trying to find out what was wrong they accused her of not doing her job.
If her team inquired instead of accusing and considered the truth instead of assuming, they would have notice that she was struggling with issues at home. This may have encouraged them to help her instead of hurting her.
Their response to her situation made things worse. They gossip about her amongst themselves and with others. This exposed the conflict within the group and created divisions amongst themselves and outsiders.
Cliques were formed and more gossip started to spread as well as name-calling, and rumors. People went as far as to start making fun of the young lady—ruining her reputation.
Rather than hurting the young lady the team should have been concerned and tried to understand what was happening with her. In turn, they would have helped and supported her which would have produced a different outcome.
As Christians, we are expected to handle situations in the same way God would by supporting us when we are at our lowest, hurting, struggling, in pain, and more.
It is our enemies (Satan) character to accuse, and he loves encouraging us to do the same because he knows the damage it creates. His desire for you is to steal, kill, and destroy you ( John 10:10 ).
"And I heard a great voice in heaven, saying, now is come the salvation, and the power, and the kingdom of our God, and the authority of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren [ believers of Jesus Christ ] is cast down, who accuses them before our God day and night"
— Revelation 12:10 (NIV).
Constantly Satan goes before God to accuse us of something we did wrong, continually bringing to attention our wrongdoings. And when you do this yourself, you are acting just like him.
When you accuse, you are criticizing and finding fault in someone. As a family of Christ, we should not be accusing each other but instead mimic what Jesus did and does—become each other's advocate.
Being an advocate doesn't mean you approve of the wrongs that a person does, it means you help them to become better. Then use their failings as a warning to ourselves and as a guide for self-examination.
"Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted."
— Galatians 6:1 (NIV).
Satan moves around restlessly looking for someone to destroy and some of the many ways he does this is by accusing, criticizing, and finding fault in someone. Many do not understand it is the adversary who is the accuser of God's people.
God has set up a throne in Heaven, the place where He reigns, judges, and rules and where His verdict is pronounced making God the supreme judge. Evidence is brought before Him, and a Holy verdict is pronounced. It is a court of justice that God oversees, dealing with lawbreaking, offence, lawlessness, wickedness, sinful cases.
It is here where angels present themselves before God and where Satan and his cohort take what you say and do, brings it as evidence to God, to give Satan and His crew permission and legal right to assault you. It is the door opening that Satan looks for to hurt you.
Job 1:6 says, “One day the angel came to present themselves before the Lord, and Satan also came with them. The Lord said to Satan, “Where have you come from?” Satan answered the Lord, “From roaming throughout the earth, going back and forth on it.”
Then in Luke 22:31 Jesus told Peter, “Simon, Simon, catch this, Satan has desired [ asked ]to have you, that he may sift you as wheat."
Satan is a troublemaker. He habitually causes difficulty or problems, specifically by inciting others to act on his behalf.
He is looking for trouble and to find something on us so he can present it before God, who is the judge, because he knows God’s foundation and very essence is righteousness and justice ( Psalm 89:14 ).
If you were to go and watch a court of law, you would get an understanding of what is happening in heaven concerning your life.
"And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth"
— 2 Timothy 2:24-25 (NIV).
We should be handling people and situations differently than how it is done in the world.
If someone messes up, the world judges, criticizes, ostracizes, condemns, bashes, and defames the person. But we are called to a higher standard where we search to understand and help the individual.
You can help by encouraging, being an example, and praying (interceding). This is an effective method and a more excellent way to live.
It doesn't pay to disobey
The woman made me do it ( Genesis 3:12,17 ). In the case of Adam accusing Eve of giving him the forbidden fruit, this was an act of disobedience. However, instead of owning up and taking responsibility for his decision, Adam did what Satan does and accused Eve instead.
"...But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master"
— Genesis 4:7.
Disobedience opens the door to sin. Your mind is the place of your intellect, reasoning, and intentions. Your actions first start in your mind before it is acted out.
If Adam would have stood by God's Word no matter what was said to him, he would not have disobeyed God.
It is important to obey God’s instructions, commands, and warnings. And when you obey, it becomes your protection from being easily deceived.
Adam socialized, lived a life with God, saw God, felt God, and knew God like no other person on earth did at that time. He had great wisdom because he named all the animals in creation. However, Adam disobeyed God and ate from a tree that God said not to. Adams choice to disobey caused him and his family to be expelled from paradise causing his lifestyle to change from having it all like freedom, provision, health, abundance and more to living a life of hardship.
There is power in disobedience because it opens the door to deception. Once deception gets rooted in your heart, then Satan has the power to influence you to do whatever he pleases.
It causes us to mess up and do wrong (sin). So when God speaks listen. Doing the opposite will take you down an unpleasant road.
Let’s look at Solomon in 1Kings chapter 11. God warned his people to not marry foreign women. It had nothing to do with them being foreign, it was because they worshipped idols and God didn’t want his people to be influence by their way of life. Unfortunately, Solomon did not listen and because of his disobedience he was deceived and started to worship other Gods.
Twice the Lord appeared unto Solomon to warn him to not do the things he did; nevertheless, Solomon disobeyed God. This act affected his generation and an entire nation.
When we disobey it does not only affect you, but also has a dire effect on those around you and your generation ( Exodus 20:5 ).
Fortunately for Solomon God made a promise with his father David, and the whole kingdom wasn’t taken away but split instead; and Solomon's son was able to get one nation out of the twelve. Sadly, through his son lost 11 nations that was his birthright, and Solomon no longer lived in peace.
There is a pattern of destruction that follows disobedience.
Let us strive to be different than Satan and his crew (demons) and not behave the same way they do. But instead strive to be just like Christ and act in the ways that He does which is being merciful, forgiving, and helpful.
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