Choose Purpose Over Popularity, In Your Relationships — From Series "It's Ok To Be Single"

Choosing purpose over popularity is not easy to do, because it can make you feel alienated or like an outcast.

You might feel isolated, misunderstood, or even like something is wrong with you.

But in environments where social acceptance and popularity are highly valued, creating unhealthy behaviors that crave admiration from people is dangerous.

And when it is not fed, it can create insecurity, where one's self-worth becomes inextricably linked to external approval and social status. 

This insecurity can be particularly pronounced in today's world, where social media amplifies the pressure to conform to certain standards of success and popularity.

But, continuously comparing oneself to others can distort one's view of their own life, making it difficult to value their unique lifestyle. 

However, if you stay focused on your purpose, you will discover its power deep-seated within to help you see your worth.  

The pressure to be involve can lead to poor decisions—like rushing into relationships not because they’re right, but because it’s popular. Because it looks good. Because it seems to satisfy the unspoken demand for social validation. But here’s what rarely gets talked about: 

Relationships that aren’t rooted in purpose can quietly sabotage your future. 

When your self-worth becomes tied to external approval—when your value hinges on whether someone else chooses you, posts about you, or affirms you—you begin to lose sight of your identity. You start performing rather than living. You start settling rather than growing. You confuse attention with affection and validation with vision. 

And yet, purpose doesn’t clamor for attention. It whispers. It waits. It calls you deeper. 

Staying true to your purpose may feel lonely at times, but it's in that space where you begin to build a foundation that isn't dependent on popularity. You develop clarity, character, and confidence. You begin to understand what really matters to you—and more importantly, who really matters to you. 

Because when it comes to relationships, who you partner with is not a light decision. 

We have to be careful not to allow what we see to be the reason why we get into a particular type of relationship or with a certain person, especially since who we are with can either help or hurt our future aspirations. 

If you join your life with someone who lacks vision, who doesn't honor your values, or who is threatened by your growth, they won’t just hold you back—they’ll drain you. They’ll dim your light, confuse your direction, and frustrate your potential. You’ll find yourself constantly torn between pleasing them and becoming who you’re called to be. 

But when you align with someone who recognizes your worth, values your vision, and supports your purpose—something powerful happens. You don’t lose yourself; you find more of yourself. You sharpen each other. You dream bigger together. You don’t just build a relationship; you build a future. The sky is no longer the limit to what you can do as a couple. 

Choosing purpose over popularity may feel slow. It may not come with applause or public approval. But it leads to a life—and a love—that is rooted, real, and enduring. 

Here are some key things to remember...The right person will not jeopardize your calling, and the right relationship will align into your assignment.

You weren’t made to impress. You were made to impact. And the right relationship won’t require you to trade your purpose for popularity. 

From Series: It's Ok To Be Single

Here's what to read next - Relationships That Fit: Stop Squeezing Into Something Not Meant for You

This blog was taken from the book: It's Ok To Be Single. You can get more information and a sneak peek of the first two chapters here.

🎙 Or... you can SUBSCRIBE and listen to this series on my YouTube channel playlist named "It's Ok To Be Single."

Sign up to receive our blogs directly to your inbox and SUBSCRIBE to our Youtube Channel

Before you go...

Join thousands of subscribers and get weekly blogs to see how the Bible is your guide for life, helping you grow, mature and get through anything in life. Also, you will be notified when our next It's Ok To Be Single blog is posted. Join 

One last thing...

If you've found this blog valuable, please remember to share it below on social media or with someone who needs to know that It's Ok To Be Single.

Explore our website...

Book Collection

Blogs

Videos 

Podcast

SEO Keywords: SSFL, Christian, Blogs, ChristianBlogs, Bible, Book, Single, It's Ok To Be Single, Lonely, Romantic Relationship, Relationship, Alone, Single christians, Single christian men, Single christian women, Purpose, Season, Single Season, Choose Purpose Over Popularity, Purpose, Popular

Please Share below!