Relationships That Fit: Stop Squeezing Into Something Not Meant for You— From Series "It's Ok To Be Single"

Are you in a relationship that fits who you truly are, or are you trying to squeeze into someone else's idea of love—something that was never tailored for you in the first place?

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Custom—Made

Have you ever tried on something that looked amazing on someone else, only to find that it just didn’t fit you right—no matter how many times you pulled, tucked, or adjusted? What looked effortless and stylish on them felt awkward and tight on you.

The same thing happens in relationships.

So many people find themselves squeezing into relationships that were never meant for them—trying to make it work, trying to “adjust” who they are to fit someone else's expectations or to match a version of love they’ve seen work for someone else. But relationships—just like clothes—aren’t one-size-fits-all.

There is a relationship designed by God, custom-made just for you.

Your life has a specific design. It’s not random. Every experience, every strength, every flaw, every passion has been stitched together with intention to fulfill your unique purpose. You weren’t created to live someone else’s life, and you certainly weren’t created to force your way into someone else’s relationship mold.

It’s okay to be inspired by others. It’s healthy to admire relationships that reflect qualities you value like: honor, commitment, faithfulness, and most importantly love. But the danger comes when admiration turns into imitation without discernment.

When you start wishing you had someone else’s relationship, you risk getting a poor-fitting version of love that was never tailored for you in the first place.

Trying to model your relationship after someone else’s without honoring your own version is like wearing an outfit custom-made for another person. It might look good on the outside, but it won’t feel right on the inside. Eventually, you’ll grow tired of constantly adjusting, explaining, shrinking, or stretching to make it work.

A relationship that’s meant for you—truly meant for you—will move with you, not against you. It will feel like something made to fit your life. That doesn’t mean it won’t have challenges. Every relationship does. But it won’t demand that you abandon yourself or your purpose in the process.

You were created with a divine blueprint. Your values, your timing, your vision for life and love—it all matters. And the relationship that honors who you are and who you’re becoming will naturally align with that.

Your identity is the pattern. Your purpose is the fabric. And the right relationship? It’s the custom-made outfit designed to walk with you into destiny.

So stop squeezing yourself into something that was never made for you. Instead, embrace who you are, and trust that the right relationship will fit—not because you forced it, but because God made it with you in mind.

From Series: It's Ok To Be Single

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