Being single, despite stigma, is a powerful chance to grow. This book shows that singleness is a season everyone experiences—and when you find and maximize its purpose, the choices you make now shape the seasons that follow. https://www.heatheredmund.com/itsoktobesingle
You’re learning to love yourself before sharing space because if you don’t, you’ll beg for love instead of choosing it, tolerate disrespect just to avoid being alone, and turn relationships into rescue missions instead of partnerships. Unhealed wounds don’t pick what’s healthy — they pick what feels familiar. When you haven’t learned self-love, love becomes dependence, not freedom, and you expect someone else to fill what only healing can fix. But when you do love yourself, you bring value, not a void. You stop asking, “Who will complete me?” and start asking, “Who will complement me?” That’s why this season matters — because if you don’t heal first, you’ll bleed on someone who didn’t cut you.
"And if you want to go deeper into this, I wrote a book called It’s OK To Be Single. It’s there if you need it.”
Stay single until you can find someone to love effortlessly and loves you effortlessly — and here's why:
because love isn’t meant to feel like constant striving, proving, or surviving. The right love brings peace, not pressure. It doesn’t drain you; it strengthens you. When love is mutual and effortless, you’re not chasing affection—you’re building purpose together, growing in safety, trust, and joy.
Real love doesn’t require you to shrink, perform, or beg to be chosen. It flows naturally. You don’t have to over-explain your heart, constantly fix problems you didn’t create, or carry the relationship on your back.
When love is right, it feels stable and peaceful. You can grow as your own person without guilt and build together without pressure. Until then, staying single gives you the freedom to become who you’re meant to be and to wait for who God has for you. There’s no better matchmaker…
Bring It’s OK to Be Single along for the ride! Hear honest conversations and practical insight on embracing single life with joy and purpose.
👉 Check it out here: It’s OK to Be Single Podcast
Single? You’re not alone—and you’re not behind. It’s OK to Be Single is all about finding purpose, identity, and joy in this season.
