Updated: Feb 19
There are many things in life that can cause you to be anxious and when you take note of the moments when you get anxious you will start to see a pattern. This regular occurrence is the key to finding out what is causing you to be anxious. And when you find out what is causing your anxieties and get the solutions, you then will be able to live anxiety free.
Once you have found out the triggers, you are now ready for the next step which is resolution. In this stage you are finding out what is needed for you to either change a situation, remove someone out of your life, or you having to change.
Situations / Environment: Your environment may be the root cause of your anxieties. It can stem from growing up in a household that fostered worry or fear. Or it may be who you are currently surrounded by.
Some environmental climates cannot be changed overnight like racial inequality; because you may not be in a position or authority to make the immediate change. But if you can change your surroundings or move away then do so.
Getting away from toxic environments is important for your mental health and wellbeing. Even if this change requires you to change your living standards, like moving to a smaller place, it is still better and safer to get out. Once away, you are now able to create an environment that supports the calmness you need.
People / Relationships:
People can cause you to be anxious. When this happens, you need to start setting boundaries because YOU set the tone on how you allow others to make you feel.
Boundaries define what you stand for and what you do not stand for. When you set boundaries in your relationship with people, they will know what you are willing to handle and what you are not - even if they do not agree. Boundaries set guidelines on how you want to be treated. This is needed because people tend to unload on others.
Boundaries protect us from emotional harm. We see this show up with people who had difficult experiences as an adolescent. Those experiences are common triggers for anxiety.
Some people grew up with guardians who put demands on them and now the person matures into someone who gets anxious when they fail, but failure is part of life. When we are born, we are brought into an environment of learning, growing, and trying to get familiar with the new atmosphere we are now in. No one has all the answers, so failure is part of growing and maturing.
While there may be many stories of relationships that promote anxiety, when you recognize this in your relationship set boundaries to prevent anxiety from being stirred up within you.
Yourself / Thinking:
Your internal way of thinking can cause you to be anxious. There is a Scripture that says, "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus" - Philippians 4:6-8.
Our thoughts are powerful because they influence the outcome of our life's. They affect how we feel and respond to situations, and since every day we are faced with the choice to accept positive thoughts or negative thoughts, what we think is important.
Your mind is a Battleground. If you are not taught the right way to think then you will succumb to wrong ways of speaking and acting. Your thinking is the reason most of you are where you are in life right now.
If you have ever battled with depression, then you know how far accepting wrong thoughts can take you. The mental battle you experience is sometimes beyond one’s control.
The book of Colossians chapter 3 verse 8 helps us to understand the kinds of thinking and speaking we should avoid to live a happier life. Reading the Bible will help you take control of any thought that is negative and think only on thoughts that are positive, and edifying.
It is important to understand that when a thought enters your mind to examine it to determine if you should continue down that path or reject that thought and replace it with another. The Scriptures (Bible) will show you how unseen thoughts produce visible consequences.
We sow a thought and reap an action. We sow an action and reap a habit. We sow a habit and reap character; we sow character and reap destiny.
There are various internal battles we face in life that affect our minds. These battles or struggles vary with each one of us for several reasons. Dealing with internal anxiety alone is challenging to do and why God provided a solution for you on how to live anxious free.
First do not leave anything out. God encourages us to not be anxious for anything, no matter what. Whatever life brings our way we should not worry, be fearful, or anxious about it. So 'put all your cards on the table' and do not hold anything back. Give it all to God. Once you have handed over to God all the things, people, and situations that are causing you to be anxious, do not take it back.
There are inheritance you are privileged to when you have a relationship with God and one of those is peace, the kind of peace that will replace your anxieties with assurance and calmness (Philippians 4:7).
At times it may not make sense on how God causes this to happen, but despite not knowing, you will get results even if the method is different than what may be the culture norm (Isaiah 55:8-9, John 14:27).
You may be asking, "How can I see my world crumbling around me and simultaneously be free? I am not troubled, disturbed, or anxious. Nor am I afraid or confused - I'm free."
You may not understand this peace, but until you do, live in it; and allow God to protect your heart and mind from anxiety and fear. And when something is bothering you, do not be distressed because you will have within you the ability to maintain (2 Corinthians 4:8-9).
Many factors can cause you to be anxious, but you must kill it before it leads you down the road of depression, substance abuse, bodily pain, social isolation, and poor quality of life. For example, you may be anxious about your future but when you know your life plan includes success it will replace that anxiety with expectation and joy.
Jeremiah 29:11, He says: "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
You deserve to be happy and to live a life free of anxiety, so make it a new way to live. And most importantly, you must know the answers to the challenging questions and decisions in life and those answers are found in the Word of God (Bible).
God’s peace is based on an unshakable foundation, which is what He promises. With God, you can find rest because worry fades away and no longer affects you. With God, fear becomes a yesterday’s problem that will not follow you into tomorrow. Read more about how God's unconditional love gives you peace that will remove the peace stealers in your life in My Love Is Unconditional