Updated: May 20
God wants to give us only things that are desirable, so He found a suitable solution.
God said it is not good for a man to be by himself, seeing man's loneliness as unappealing.
So, God looked at a woman and saw a good thing and placed her in the companionship of a man (Genesis 2:18-24).
It is a major responsibility for the man because now the woman is under the care of her husband.
But it's OK
It's OK if the man loves you like Jesus Christ loves you.
Here is where you will benefit the most out from your marriage.
Think about it.
With the love that Jesus has for you, if your husband made great effort to replicate that love, it will be heaven on earth.
When your husband follows God's example then he will go as far as relinquishing himself for you, seeing you as valuable, and worthy (John 15:13). That's what Jesus did, and Jesus calls the church His bride (Revelation 19:7; Ephesians 5:27; 2 Corinthians 11:2).
The Lord came and willingly went through the ordeal that He experienced because He knew He was doing it for someone of value, worth, magnificence, and beauty. He knew what He would get back in return, and that is a perfect you.
To submit to a husband that loves you like Christ, is submitting to a man who is patient, kind, humble, respectful, not self-observed, knows how to let things go, and makes you his number one! (1 Corinthians 13:4-5, Ephesians 5:25).
He is someone you can trust because you know he looks out for your welfare realizing he is your strength and security, who guards and protects, and watches your back.
You can trust that he will do all that he can to make sure that no harm comes near you, as he handles every dire situation, keeping you from becoming involved with unsavory outcomes.
He is forgiving like God which eliminates arguments that create disunity within the marriage. Understanding that not forgiving is an attitude or spirit of pride and causes bitterness, anger, and revenge (Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:12).
It's having a husband who sees love covers a multiple of sins, protecting and concealing your wrongs from others who will slander and gossip and ruin your reputation. Excerpt From Book: My Love Is Unconditional
He understands you are not perfect, and there is a process to reach perfection (1 Peter 1:15; Ephesians 5:25-26).
There was a man who was interested in me being his wife, and what I observed about him was how he would gossip and damage the reputation of his sister and mother. If he does this to his own family then he would do it to me.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time - Maya Angelou
He was also easily offended and thought extremely highly of himself. He was a disaster waiting to happen, with trouble brewing around the corner; and without a relationship with God, and Him showing me what true love is, I would have been blinded by the not so obvious characteristics he had.
When you experience the love of God you will know a counterfeit when you see one.
Someone who masquerades are stumbling blocks in your life. Be aware of these type of individuals for satan himself masquerades as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14).
It's important to have a firm relationship with God, so He can show you these hidden behaviors that are not always evident.
Their deceitful behaviors are hidden in the smooth, words of adoration and admiration poured on you as you are being wooed. Kept secret and away until they have you and then you are trapped in their web of deception, finding yourself with regret and confusion; blaming God and yourself wondering how you got here.
Spending time with God, asking Him questions, and seeking His advice beforehand, is necessary before you make the decision to go into a relationship. He will give you the patience needed to make sure you get the best.
A person whether in marriage, friendship or partnership should cause you to improve or enhance. If this person is not, then it may be time to reassess the relationship.
Our lives are the biggest indicator of who we truly are. The way we speak, and act shows exactly what's inside. What comes out of the mouth of a person is what's in their heart and your life bears fruit of who you truly are (Matthew 15:18).
If you seek love, then you will know love, and when you know love, then you cannot be fooled.
A husband that loves you is not neglectful or irresponsible. He is prudent, making sure your affairs are met. When you know God then you know love and to know love is to know what to desire from your husband and who to be as a husband.
To be able to authentically love your woman you must rely on and replicate God's love for us, since He is love. And when you live in love (God), then God will live in you (Love) (1John 4:16). Love is the door opener for God to live in us (1 John 4:12).
A husband should understand his wife was molded, created, and wonderfully made; and he is there to celebrate her excellence and to make sure she knows her worth. He knows that you both have become one in mind, understanding and kindred-souls. He sees that he is stronger and better with you in his life than a part. And he is devoted to you as you are devoted to him.
He desires to show his woman love like never before and that his love is never ending, as his love grows deeper and deeper every day for her.
When someone loves you intensely it becomes a joy for them to demonstrate their expression of love for you. Not because they want to prove their love for you, but because what they have for you is unconditional.
This is how Jesus loves us, out of His intense love for us He takes delight in fulfilling our desires. God wishes above everything that you prosper and be free from any illness or injury at the same time as your soul prospers (3 John 2:2).