Updated: May 20
I wasn't simply born this way, God made me this way. I am who I am because God made me be who I am. I am who I am because of what God says I am. As a Christian our lives are not the way they are because of circumstances instead it is because of what God says.
If God ever promised you something and it happened, it is not circumstantial, it is because of what God said.
I walked around with my head so high that it was impossible to reach it. I was arrogant not realizing God gave me the mindset, abilities, and skills for His pre-orchestrated Divine purpose and I was ignorant to this truth.
But His love, the one that displays patience, forbearance, and understanding, waited for me to get it. He did not get frustrated or disgusted, instead He took His time and transform me, giving me understanding and waited until I became receptive to feedback.
This truth that was in front of me was no longer hidden. I can clearly see I am not better than other people. Who I am and becoming, was designed for the intent that God has predestined me to be.
If we are not careful, our own purpose could become a stumbling-block and the very thing used by the enemy to stop us from fulfilling the reason for which we were created.
I struggled with arrogance. Arrogance is a trait of pride and a prideful person is not a blessed person.
Being arrogant is straying away from God's instructions and how He designs for use to live and be. This carries consequences of having ill fortune and having or being in unfortunate conditions or events. When you observe the life or get a chance to peep into the life of an arrogant person, you will see trouble, setbacks, and problems.
There's a woman I know, who has abilities that should have taken her to heights of success. Unfortunately for her there was something that held her back and obstructed her from ruling her world. That derail in her life is called Pride, specifically arrogance.
Watching her would always perplex me on why is it that she is gifted yet poor, and one day it was made very clear as God showed me evidence of this snare in her life.
God reminded me of the many times He would lovely warn her to "say less." It is a hard instruction to obey if you have pride. When you are tested and you feel the need to speak your mind, the need to prove something, get easily angered, lack patience, or want it your way, you are giving into pride.
There has only been one way that I have found success in getting rid of pride. It is not experience, self-effort, or wishing it away. It is getting help from God and be willing to go through the challenges of the refining process.
You may fail and feel like you may never succeed. But that is the adversary lying to you hoping you will quit. But when you persevere and endure, using God's Word as your anchor, in time with patience and expectation, you will rid pride out of your life. This is where you will start to feel free as layers of pride is stripped off you.
There are personalities, attitudes, and characteristics in our life we will have to get rid of if we want to live in an excellent way.
"The reward for humility and fear of the Lord is riches and honor and life" - Proverbs 22:4.
Everything I want in life is attached to me being humble. I want riches (wealth, assets, influence), honor (integrity, good character, righteousness), and life. However, to achieve this, I must learn to be humble and to respect the Lord.
"...God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” - 1 Peter 5:5.
God's grace is many things, and one is, it is His favor. I am a recipient of unearned favor. I have gotten things, positions, and opportunities without deserving or asking for it.
Read more about God's favor here.
God’s favor covers every area of your life and is a demonstration of His love and mercy. Favor will take you where nothing else can take you, opens doors that are closed, and allow you to do more with less.
Favor is better than money.
"That night the Lord appeared to him and said, “I am the God of your father Abraham. Do not be afraid, for I am with you; I will bless you and will increase the number of your descendants for the sake of my servant Abraham.” - Genesis 26:24.
You cannot buy God, and God's favor is for the righteous ones and who He pleases to give it to. He gives it, because He can. So for me to continue in His grace I must be humble.
Another thing I desire is wisdom.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom - Proverbs 11:2.
I seek wisdom because it is dangerous to be a fool.
"Fools have no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions" - Proverbs 18:2.
"The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives" - Proverbs 18:7.
I do not want to live a life of disgrace and wisdom can prevent that (Proverbs 3:35). Instead, this is what I want:
The Spirit of Yahweh will rest upon him, the Spirit of Extraordinary Wisdom, the Spirit of Perfect Understanding the Spirit of Wise Strategy, the Spirit of Mighty Power, the Spirit of Revelation, and the Spirit of the Fear of Yahweh - Isaiah 11:2 (TPT).
And here is why.
Once you read the Scriptures, you get revelatory knowledge. This knowledge then manifests itself in your ordinary everyday routine though your business, family, relationships and affairs. You start to notice you are making better decisions because you are getting Spiritual direction and understanding.
As you continue to read the Scriptures and obtain more knowledge which manifests itself in your day-to-day routine, you start to become wiser in your daily decisions, whatever they may be. You start to know how to judge wisely and fairly in the areas that are needed. Then as you continue to read the Scriptures, you grow even more.
Read more here: How To Gain Wisdom For Everyday Affairs.
I want to live an excellent life, where my family and those who are impacted by me can be proud and wisdom is needed to make this possible (Proverbs 15:33). We should be concerned with other people as well because life is connected. What we do and say affects other people (2 Samuel 12: 1- 31).
We do not live in an isolated world. Everything is connected in some way. What is in your heart (soul, emotions) dominates your thinking, causing you to act out how you feel. Your actions affect not only you but anyone around you, making it important that we become teachable, so we learn how to make better choices.
Life is a cycle. When you hurt someone, they begin to act out of the pain or anger inside of what was given to them, applying this behavior to someone else, and the cycle continues.
While reaching out to an old friend, he wrote me an e-mail that basically told me off. He expressed to me how mean I was to him and how he has given me his heart for me to only trample over it. He hated me for disrespecting him and treating him like he was invaluable. The e-mail shocked me because the person I have matured into would never do the things he was saying. I realize how badly I hurt this person and how it is still fresh in his mind. I started to think about how my actions may be affecting his relationship. Is he distrustful towards women? Will he ever allow himself to become vulnerable? I only hoped he realized that he fell in love with a broken soul that needed serious repair, but second chances don’t always happen, making it important that we act in love the first time. Excerpt from "It's Ok To Be Single"
If you take the time to ponder life, and observe others or your own family dynamic, you will see how parents/guardians' choices have affected their kid(s) and how a person in power or authority has cause riots and division.
But the most important solution, the one way to act that will give me all that I desire and help me become a better person to be around, and that is love. Love is the greatest force in the universe and the most effective way to be.
"And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony" - Colossians 3:14
Love sums it up.