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How to Say the Right Things

Updated: Feb 7


When you speak with people your conversations should always be valuable.


From Series: Life Lessons Learned from the Bible - Colossians 4: 6



How to say the right things.


When you spend time with God you come away with many things and one of those is having the wisdom to say the right things.

The Lord gives favor to those who have a relationship with him. This favor or grace will allow you to speak in a way that is pleasing, attractive, and smart— ensuring that your words will always be beneficial.

There is a Scripture that tells us whether we are eating, drinking, or whatever we are doing, do it to the honor of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). We should do everything in honor and reverence to the Lord including our conversation with each other.


Our conversations should demonstrate the characteristics of God within us. When someone says they did not know you are a Christian you should be disappointed that your lifestyle and words are not bearing fruit. We should be influencing others to want to have a relationship with God based on our lifestyle.


Our very life should be giving people Jesus. All that he is, should emanate from our very beings. It should be heard in our words and seen in our behavior. This lack of evidence in your life is an indication of your lack of time spent with God. Instead, you should be hearing, "I knew there was something different about you."


It is important that we market the Kingdom of Heaven in such a way that others will want to be a part of it. This is what Jesus did and wants and why he died on the cross for the purpose of reconnecting us back to the Father. The only way this can be done is with Christ, through Christ and from Christ.

Our conversations should be encouraging, helpful and inspiring. There are many people that do not have confidence in themselves or with God, but your words influenced by God can revolutionize that person’s whole life.


You may not know anything about that person personally, but God does. He knows the hearts and thoughts, whether past, current, and future of us all. He knows our minds and the way each of us is wired because he created us. Therefore, we are expected to use our words to encourage, uplift, inspire, and love.


Our conversations should come with great value. Now I understand there are times when we fool around to lighten the mood, those have their place and purposes; however, to inspire others to be their best self's, our conversations should raise the level of their psyche.


When you stay in connection or fellowship with God you slowly but surely take on his mindset. This means you start to think and behave like him. How awesome is that!


It is the same when you hang around someone often, their habits start to rub off on you because you mirror the behavior of the person you spend the most time with.


There is a saying, "you are the company you keep", meaning you are judged by the people you associate with. Therefore, in order to build good character, spend more time with people who already practice them.


With God's help, you will not mess up by saying inappropriate remarks or words that are offensive. It is possible because God has a way of removing and extracting things out of us that should not be there.


One assured way of accomplishing this is by reading the Bible. The Bible is God's Word in written form. It is the bread or the life source that came down from the heavenly realm and when you feed on it you experience transformation.


God's Word is living and active. It is more than stories of the past. It stands the test of time and is relevant today.  


As you read you are being feed and the more you are feed the more you grow, and the more you grow the better choices you make. 


All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, correction, and for training in righteousness, so you may be competent, equipped for every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16-17)


Read, study and understand the arsenal that you have, the Bible, and you will never again be easily deceived by saying the wrong things.


Your words should be like salt, spoken with intelligence and consideration. In Biblical times, to the Hebrews, salt was more than something that gave flavor to food. It was customary to use salt to pledge friendships. In Arabic salt and treaty are the same. Even if an Arab's worst enemy eats salt with him he is bound to protect his guest as long as he remains. So in some cultures salt has value.


We know salt is also good for antiseptic in medicine. In Ezekiel 16:4 newborn babies were bathed and salted as part of custom. And salt is an emblem of loyalty and friendship. 


People who are described as, salt of the earth, are those who are considered to be of great excellence (Matthew 5:13-16). The old use of the word salt originated to be excellent because of its high value. The bottom line is, it means you are a good and noteworthy person. And someone who has influence.


When you adapt the attributes of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control, you will say the right thing all the time. Having these qualities will make you an influential person and affect many people in a positive way. These attributes will make you mature; however, they do not work automatically— you must play a part in whether these qualities grow and develop in your life. This can be done by applying, practicing, and doing it on purpose.


Like everything else, stopping one habit and creating a new one takes time but as your relationship with God tightens you will start to take on his nature.


Like a baby, we are not born knowing it all; most things must be learned and developed. It is the same with building character. It must be seen, demonstrated and learned.


When people hear effective, mind stimulated, uplifting, and motivating conversations, it encourages others to feel there is something worthwhile to become and do. Like a domino effect, they too will become agents of change. Our conversations should always be valuable and demonstrate the characteristics of God within us.



When you accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, you can now begin a life full of joy by experiencing an amazing fellowship with the Lord, and in return you will be given wisdom on how to say the right things all the time.

ReferenceColossians 4: 6


The Bible is your guide for life and how you can grow, mature, and get through anything in life!


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